Relationships Part 4 – Forgiveness
In the last session, we discussed that a great way to have healthy relationships in love. A great way to show love to others in the workplace is by being others-centered. Trust!
If you are self-centered you can’t meet the needs of others.
If someone’s (realistic) needs are not met, they feel you own them. This debt of unmet needs can be cancelled by forgiving.
What is forgiveness?
What if I don’t cancel the debt? What options do I have?
1. Make someone pay______________________. 2. Denial________________________________.
If you don’t forgive – resentment, bitterness, revenge and retaliation result. I never met a happy, bitter person. It did nothing to the person who harmed you, but it eats away at you from the inside out.
How Do These Options Work?
Qualifications of cancelling debt: So, what do we do instead? (It Doesn’t matter Anger)
1. Cancelling does not deny the past. Acknowledge offense or the hurt. (One person)
2. Cancelling does not deny feelings. Explore feelings through self-awareness, possibly anger
3. Cancelling does not deny time. Choose not to make them pay.
4. Cancelling does not deny justice. Decide to make up. (Two people) 5. Cancelling does not deny boundaries. Listen and set boundaries.
You can use forgiveness to manage your emotions and benefit others rather than using your emotions to manipulate others.